I feel for the person, but I'm not sure what the police can do if somebody stalks without committing a clear offence, just like the case where somebody might be a terrorist but hasn't committed any act of terrorism yet. You can't throw somebody in jail for being annoying. Though perhaps the person could be forced into therapy if there are multiple reports from multiple people about aberrant and problematic behaviour... That could be something the law should look into.
No victim blaming here, but be clear and confront the guy. I guess making beyond shadow of a doubt clear that you don't ever want to hear from him again under any terms is about the only thing you can legally do. Wishy-washy communication is in my opinion really the wrong way to deal with pushy men. The slightest wavering means "yes" to some guys.
> No victim blaming here, but be clear and confront the guy
Stalking is very common. Rarely stalkers will murder their victims. It's not easy to tell the difference between the annoying but not murdering stalkers and the murdering stalkers.
So confronting them carries a small but real risk of severe harm.
There's also not much evidence that confrontation works to stop stalking.
> The slightest wavering means "yes" to some guys.
This is incorrect. To these people anything will be twisted into "yes".
"I don't want you to contact me again. If you make any further contact I will contact the police, and you will be in violation of the court order I have against you" will be interpreted to fit the delusion, perhaps "in truth she still loves me, and wants to be with me, but her husband has manipulated her into saying this stuff."
Tldr ratioanilty doesn't work with irrational people.
I think it's fairly clear in this case that her stalker (and likely most stalkers) are suffering from some form of mental illness. A "no", even a firm one, is not actually sufficient deterrence.
No victim blaming here, but be clear and confront the guy. I guess making beyond shadow of a doubt clear that you don't ever want to hear from him again under any terms is about the only thing you can legally do. Wishy-washy communication is in my opinion really the wrong way to deal with pushy men. The slightest wavering means "yes" to some guys.